aubrey rachel violet, MA, LMFTA-Pending

(Pronouns: she/her)

Associate-Pending Individual & Relationship Therapist

Sex therapist

I strongly believe that the path to empowered embodiment lies in facing and integrating the shadow self, or what we commonly recognize as the more challenging and/or shame-inducing aspects of self. Stories - those we’ve been told, those we tell ourselves, and the ones we keep coming back to - play a fundamental role in how we engage with the world around us. One of our human superpowers lies in our ability to determine which stories we wish to align with, and which ones we wish to rewrite, reimagine, and/or rediscover. Through this intentional work of examining our depths and meaning making, I believe it is possible to discover and experience liberation, connection, and joy.

I’m an existential therapist who incorporates elements of narrative, feminist, emotionally focused and Jungian therapy into my work. I offer pleasure-centered and affirming, sex-positive, anti-oppressive, anti-racist, and inclusive care, and I am trained to work with both individuals and family systems. This includes romantic partners, parents and children, and larger constellations of biological and/or chosen families and polycules. I am extremely passionate about working with cis men to unravel maladaptive behaviors and beliefs rooted in patriarchy, as well as with those who struggle with out of control sexual behavior - more commonly characterized as sex or porn addiction, and other compulsive erotic behaviors.

Pleasure activism, or what adrienne maree brown describes as "the work we do to reclaim our whole, happy, and satisfiable selves from the impacts, delusions, and limitations of oppression and/or supremacy,” is a core value I infuse into all of my clinical work. I am an artist and musician at heart, and endlessly curious about human stories. In addition to my therapeutic experience, I have an extensive professional background in the realms of film and television, education, journalism, and the erotic arts, as well as formal training in grief work, end of life care, mindfulness, and conflict mediation. I identify as queer, cis, white, and chronically-ill. Having lived many lives and walked many paths, I strive to bring to the therapy space a depth of presence, openness, grace, humor and compassion. I'd love to be a fierce ally on your healing journey.